Say what matters — without blame
Communication is not a problem to solve but a relationship to shape.
A difficult conversation is coming up: an argument you want to settle, a problem you need to bring up. Here you prepare it — in your own words, in a few minutes, so that it lands and the relationship holds.
- No AI — every question comes from a fixed rule
- No account, no cookies
- Nothing is stored, not on the server either
Example What a practice conversation looks like
One minute from a practice run with the bot — the lines are fixed here, you type nothing.
- You
I'd like to talk about my phone. Last night you picked it up and read my messages without asking me.
- Your counterpart
Oh come on, you're overreacting.
- You
You are always going through my phone, that is just disrespectful.
Background: Thinking traps (CBT)
- Sam (coach)
Stay with last night: one incident you both remember. Then there is nothing to disprove — only something to hear.
The counterpart and the coach in the practice room are a language model; the preparation here on the website works without AI.
Try it on one sentence
Write it the way you would say it. The simulator reads along — before you select anything.
2 notes: “always” is a generalisation. “disrespectful” is a judgement, not observable behaviour.
When did you last notice it? Name that one occasion.
Background: Thinking traps (CBT): overgeneralising· more
What exactly was said or done?
Background: Marshall B. Rosenberg: observing without evaluating· more
My phone was on the table; you opened the messages.
What is it about for you?
What happens in between
You write it the way it comes to you. The simulator reads along and asks back — at the places that predictably lead into defence.
- You describe the occasion. What happened, not what the person is like.
- You say what it does to you. As an I-statement — nobody can dispute that.
- You name a request. Concrete enough that both of you can tell afterwards whether it was met.
You write the sentences. The simulator asks the question back and shows examples as a yardstick — it does not phrase things for you.
The next step
Now say it out loud — to someone who reacts
A good first sentence is half the battle. The other half is what comes next: objection, justification, silence — and whether you still get on afterwards. In the Conflict Simulator bot you talk the conversation through once, before it counts.
- A counterpart who reacts like the real person — pushing back, and softening when you stay with the point.
- Sam, a coach for a time-out in the middle — when you're stuck.
- A debrief on observation, feeling, need and request — and what to take into the real conversation.
3 conversations a day free — in the browser and in Telegram; in Telegram, more if you need it via Telegram Stars.
To be clear: unlike this website, the bot uses a language model. It runs on our own servers in Germany, nothing goes to third parties, and your practice conversation is deleted after the debrief.
It does not work on you. It works on your sentences.
Orientation, not a promise
- Not therapy, not mediation, not counselling.
- Not a push-button conflict solver — you hold the conversation.
- Not a guide to winning. This is about the relationship, not about being right.
- No account, no sign-up, no cookies.
- No AI. Fixed rules that sit in the source.
- Your sentences are computed and then discarded.
Where there is violence or a threat, a prepared conversation is the wrong instrument. Find support.
What it builds on
The foundation is Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg: observe instead of judging, name your own feeling, ask for something concrete. More at the Center for Nonviolent Communication.
Beyond that, this tool checks where conversations most often tip over in practice: generalisations like “always” and “never”, verdicts on the person, you-messages instead of I-messages (a distinction that goes back to Thomas Gordon), demands and threats instead of requests.
The practice bot goes further: a counterpart who answers back like the real person; a coach for the time-out who works with tools from motivational interviewing and active listening; and a debrief that also asks whether you listened to the other side. All with one aim: communication not as a problem to solve but as a relationship to shape.
The Conflict Simulator draws on Marshall B. Rosenberg's approach; its author is not a CNVC-certified trainer.
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